POSTED BY: Oliver Ross \ April 23, 2016


Part of the “work to be done” in the practice of contentment is to deal with the aversive side of unappreciative more, better, different thinking. Instead of the side of this thinking that propels us to persistently pursue a plethora of more, better and different things, the aversive side deludes us into believing that avoidance of certain people or circumstances will cause contentment.

If only we could avoid someone we find repulsive, then we would be at peace. If only we could evade serious sickness, then we would be at ease. These are but a few examples of the delusionary dimension of the aversion consequential to unappreciative thinking.

When we become entangled in the aversion that stems from unchecked unappreciative thinking, our feelings and behavior follow suite. We frequently feel fearful of not being able to avoid this or that person or situation, and go to great lengths to adjust our behavior accordingly. Our anxiousness, apprehension and other facets of fear reinforce the delusion of separation (Chapter 5), driving us to behave in ways that deepen, not lessen, our discontentment with other people and conditions.

Practitioners of contentment do their best to deal with the advent of aversion by using it as an opportunity (i.e., a “clue”) to further their progress towards greater and longer lasting contentment. They employ their best efforts to be aware of and accept the reality that aversion is neither good nor bad, but rather a commonly experienced negative emotional consequence of unappreciative more, better, different thinking. They also steadfastly strive to deal with their averseness by taking those types of actions which promote a predominately appreciative state of mind, actions which diminish their sore spots (Chapter 8), simultaneously enhance their sweet spots (Chapter 10), and lead to the development of the predominately appreciative state of mind requisite to contentment.