On November 1, 1991, I went through a life changing experience. This experience was profoundly painful and yet ultimately wonderful.
Before this experience, while practicing law for 19 years and managing a family business for 5 years, I spent most of my time persistently pursuing the acquisition and accomplishment of more, better, and different things – more and more clients and customers, better and better law partners and employees, different upon different praises and possessions, to mention just a few. But this experience – which involved being compellingly confronted by a mental health professional about the dysfunctional and destructive ways I was living my life, and for several years thereafter suffering intermittent periods of sometimes severe emotional and mental pain – turned my life upside down.
In the relatively early years following this experience, I didn’t work in a traditional way but instead earned a Masters in degree in clinical psychology and a Ph.D. degree behavioral psychology. I also established a mediation practice with the primary goal of helping divorcing couples resolve their matters cooperatively and collaboratively. I also began to steadfastly learn about the nature of my thoughts and emotions, and how they affect my behavior – such that I could change the ways I think, feel and behave towards myself and my family, friends, workplace colleagues, clients, and everyone else with whom I interact.
Now, with my book, The Practice of Contentment, I have done my best to capture the essence of my knowledge and experience about why most of us are predominately discontent, and about how we can become increasingly content. My hope in writing this book is that others will benefit from what I have so far learned about the delusion that an excess of more, better and different things will make us content. I also hope that others will blog with me and other practitioners of contentment, such that we can all enjoy frequent and longer lasting moments of the deep sense of satisfaction and serenity constituent of contentment.